Wedding that just passed and thoughts

So this is very much a delayed post... Took sometime to reflect on the events of the wedding and some practices. First up, the whole door thing. Getting a young child from the female side to open the door.. I wonder where such a practice existed from. Isn't there a door handle to open? But that's not the big issue, its the whole idea of going to the brides house to pick up the bride. WHy? then go home then go bride's house... Can't we simply meet at our father's house? To see your bride walk down the aisle for the first time is lost when you go to the house. Also the practice of haggling at the door is just plain wrong. Why am I required to pay money to a bunch of women so that I can enter the door of the house of the bride? Firstly, its not their house, they don't have claim over the bride or own the bride. If this was Christian and the groom is supposed to Christ then mebbe, but what am I supposed to be nailed on the cross to prove my love for the bride. To do silly things on the spot, to be as outrageous as possible t prove a point to all that I really LOVE my wife? hmmmm I think she already agreed to marry me based on my past track record. What more do I have to prove? That perhaps is the idea of love for most people think is. Where is constant love and faith shown? I truly wonder.....

I really felt sick at the thought of doing all these things to simply gain access and entry. It is totally meaningless... TOTALLY. Is it just plain culture? or perhaps to risk being labelled for labelling, an asian thing of doing all these to prove a point. In many self help Christian books, they talk about helping the groom and bride to love each other to bring them closer etc. Yet for a Christian wedding, we adopt practices which want to make it more difficult for the broom to get the bride. Silly ain't it. THink about it, are we really that two minded? Perhaps this would help illustrate the silliness of it all. THink of all the games and things you play on the wedding day. Would you do any of that at the church? I highly doubt it. And why won't you do it? Answer that yourself....

SO if you don't and won't ever want to do it at the church. Why then should you do it outside? are church and outside church different? If the people involved are the same?