Wedding that just passed and thoughts

So this is very much a delayed post... Took sometime to reflect on the events of the wedding and some practices. First up, the whole door thing. Getting a young child from the female side to open the door.. I wonder where such a practice existed from. Isn't there a door handle to open? But that's not the big issue, its the whole idea of going to the brides house to pick up the bride. WHy? then go home then go bride's house... Can't we simply meet at our father's house? To see your bride walk down the aisle for the first time is lost when you go to the house. Also the practice of haggling at the door is just plain wrong. Why am I required to pay money to a bunch of women so that I can enter the door of the house of the bride? Firstly, its not their house, they don't have claim over the bride or own the bride. If this was Christian and the groom is supposed to Christ then mebbe, but what am I supposed to be nailed on the cross to prove my love for the bride. To do silly things on the spot, to be as outrageous as possible t prove a point to all that I really LOVE my wife? hmmmm I think she already agreed to marry me based on my past track record. What more do I have to prove? That perhaps is the idea of love for most people think is. Where is constant love and faith shown? I truly wonder.....

I really felt sick at the thought of doing all these things to simply gain access and entry. It is totally meaningless... TOTALLY. Is it just plain culture? or perhaps to risk being labelled for labelling, an asian thing of doing all these to prove a point. In many self help Christian books, they talk about helping the groom and bride to love each other to bring them closer etc. Yet for a Christian wedding, we adopt practices which want to make it more difficult for the broom to get the bride. Silly ain't it. THink about it, are we really that two minded? Perhaps this would help illustrate the silliness of it all. THink of all the games and things you play on the wedding day. Would you do any of that at the church? I highly doubt it. And why won't you do it? Answer that yourself....

SO if you don't and won't ever want to do it at the church. Why then should you do it outside? are church and outside church different? If the people involved are the same?

Soul Asylum-Runaway Train

Its sad ain't it?

1 more run.... till i never get back

So... the cold war has ended only to let another begin. I think the wedding is cancelled at this point. the gown.. everything has come to naught.. something which i always wonder.... Why do people spend so much on weddings? is it because its a social thing? can't we make a vow and keep to it? or must we spend thousands of dollars to make things nice for that 1 day make things worse for your life?

also.. I really believe that it takes two hands to clap... its not about you in the wrong or me but both... because romans 3:23 is real.. where grace comes in.. yet this time.. chased out of the house.. no wedding.. i doubt that there would be grace... looks like things are starting to look a lot familiar....

Busyness

Its been quite crazy and amidst the busyness... maybe a sense of solitude? Heard somethings I'm not supposed to hear and well... somehow.. the reaction seems far muted on myside... I wonder if I should go for a run later..

Arrested Development - Miracles

Miracles? It begins... with us... with a changed heart...

Forgiveness Biscuits

I'm stuck... As some of you might know it. The wedding plans have to be put on a hold.. Its cold war time again.. I really wonder how long this is going to last.. its almost 2 weeks. I'm tired... Why must a wedding be so difficult? Why can't moving out be a celebration? I wonder if most people have forgotten what's a marriage. Its as though everything we are doing from the house to the ceremony is for people. I wish I could just walk up get married and move off. Mebbe its just too much symbolism and most people for get (Which leads to all these extra recovenant marraige ceremony)

Hmmm its ironic though reading through Joseph... seeing the whole favouritism thing affect my dad and his brother.. reminds me of Jacob and Esau. The seperation and not coming back. Looking back at my parents leaving the family and ignoring their parents... Well.. it seems like its now my turn to do such things. The only difference perhaps that this is not what I really hope to happen. God is speaking and as I walked to the shop and collected the mooncakes for Deb, i remembered sharing during staff worship sometime back on forgiveness biscuits. Thye Lee Tau sa piah. If its so possible that i can even go back to the shop and get the biscuits, then mebbe forgiveness is possible. We've got a heritage in this business and i wonder if there were no forgiveness would things be lost? (Am looking back at how Joseph forgave his brothers and in the process preserved the line of Israel)

And so... the day must come where i speak to parents, to enjoy the family once more.. but when can this be?